People with fear of public speaking or stage fright are flooded with negative feelings and thoughts that tell them they are not good at speaking.  But the feelings and thoughts are usually more about expectation of perfection than an accurate assessment of their actual talents and abilities.  In other words, because they have fear and [...]

 
Shame and perfectionism are interrelated.  Shame is the painful feeling that comes from a deep-seated belief that “I am not good enough.”  It is generated from an unconscious thought that “I AM wrong.”  That means your very Being is not acceptable.
 Perfectionism is what we do to try to avoid the feelings of shame.  We think [...]

Once in a while, an idea comes along which changes all the other ideas that I am teaching. I met that idea this week at The UP Experience in Houston.  Among the cadre of sixteen awesome speakers, who were all thought leaders in their fields, was Dr. Brené Brown.  Dr. Brené Brown is a writer, researcher, [...]